If you are a picky eater… you are not alone. If you are not… you should be! In thought, word and deed!
Picky eating is a typical behavior for many people! It is simply another step in the process of taking control of you life. Be a grown up, be independent, and live as you know you want to! Be in control. Be a freak about it! After all, we are talking about your life, your health, and your body! No body else should even be considered at all. Not your DH, Not your kids, not even your parents if you do not live under their roof!
As long as you are in good health generally, and have plenty of energy, you are most likely getting needed nutrients.
If you are concerned that becoming a picky eater may last for a very long time or is very restrictive, speak with your doctor. Diabetics are picky eaters that must be so for a lifetime… we are also in a health crisis and should address all of our future dietary needs as such!
Many people are hesitant to try new foods or even attempt to give a new diet half a chance! It is completely normal to reject foods you have never tried before. Losing the foods that have poisoned your body but delighted your taste buds is also hard. Finding tradeoffs that will bring a smile to your lips without pounds to your hips is so important! Mourning the loss of favorite foods as you enter the presumed wasteland of dieting is sooooo foreboding! Granny knows! I have been there… we all have.
These reactions are leftover insights from our terrible twos… yes, from a period when non-verbal feelings and actions were ingrained into your memory regarding those things that you wanted to do that were forbidden and blocked at every turn and the actions you did not want to do that were physically thrust upon you!
What can you do to break that old scripting and get yourself to try new foods?
Face and accept the original reasons you felt and acted in this way!
Small portions have big benefits. Try small portions of new foods, you may enjoy them. Take small tastes at first and be patient with yourself. When you start to develop a taste for your new foods that support your new way of life you will be finding and experimenting with many new recipes, and that will make it easier to plan delicious and healthy family meals.
Listen to what you say and do to yourself and others about food. Watch how you react. Be a good role model by trying new foods yourself. The most positive way possible, orally describe the taste, texture, and smell of all new foods and recipes. You may be the only one listening but… what we see, taste, smell, touch and HEAR… make a huge impact! That new food or recipe may become your very favorite if you just give it a chance!
Introduce only one new food item or recipe variation at a time. Serve something that you know you like along with the new food. Starting your dream of a new lifestyle in dieting with too many new foods all at once is often too overwhelming and has been the cause of folks tossing the dream out the window.
Taking a taste of that new food first thing will set the mood for the meal! Right at the beginning of a meal, when you are the most hungry, take a long slow smell of the food just before you take a bite… close your eyes while you give it your full attention and think positive! Do you like the fragrance? Does it call to you? Do you like the texture? Is it seasoned to your liking? Does it need more or less of something to make it ‘perfection’? Is it delicious? Others around you, if they see you doing this, will have one of two thoughts. They will think that either you are praying before your meal (in that case the will not say a word most of the time) or they will think you are truly enjoying what you have just put in your mouth! (If that is the case… make that yummy hum that people make when they have just tasted something divine!) Not everything will taste wonderful… but 99% of the time it will not taste ‘icky’ either! So do not start gagging and spitting and saying bad words! If you just cannot stand it… then smile sweetly and in your most gracious way, and using your best manners… say… “ Well now… that is very interesting… I am going to have to remember this dish, however if I eat any more I won’t be able to finish the rest of my meal!” The folks around you will think you just paid them a big compliment when however you were actually stating that it could make you sick! No need for negative! Be polite to you and all that are present.
Serve food plain to begin with if that is important to you. For example, instead of a spicy macaroni casserole, try to break down the ingredients separately like meatballs, pasta, and a vegetable. Also, you may wish to pretend you are dining in a fancy restaurant by setting out several plates of different sizes to keep the different foods separate or try plates with sections. For some of us the opposite works and serving a new food mixed in with a familiar item may be more helpful. I did that with DH when I recently made black bean brownies! I waited until he cleared half the plate before telling him how great they were for his gout because of the medicinal effect that the main ingredient, black beans, has in reversing the formation of crystals in gout. He thought I was teasing until I actually had to show him the recipe, the dirty blender, and black bean research on the internet! Now he begs me to make them, saying his gout needs them, every weekend!
As the responsible caregiver for yourself primarily and your family secondarily, (yes, I do have this in the right order in this particular case) you play the biggest role in everyone’s life when it comes to eating behavior. What you say has an impact on developing healthy eating habits that not only affect that one single bite of food at the moment but also influences every bite that you or those under your dietary influence will have for the rest of their lives!
Negative phrases, expressions and reactions, as demonstrated above, can easily be changed into positive, helpful ones!
What else can you say to yourself and others that will affect eating behavior? The kid in us hears the negative memory tracks of the adults that raised us echo as we eat. What do you subconsciously hear or repeat without being aware? If you react to negative tracks, as I have, then together we can fight those and break that chain of bondage on others. Not all eating choices that are made are the right kind of picky eating! Let’s view a list of common phrases that help and hinder healthy eating habits.
Some phrases teach us to eat for approval and love. This can lead to a lifetime of unhealthy behaviors, attitudes, and beliefs about food and about us. Instead try phrases that help to point out the sensory or vitamin qualities of food. They encourage the inner you and others to try new foods.
Instead of: Eat that for me try this is kiwi fruit; it’s sweet like a strawberry.
Instead of: If you do not eat one more bite, I will be mad try These tomatoes are filled with lots of good invisible stuff that can keep you strong, help you grow, and fights for you to stay well!
Then, phrases like these teach us to ignore fullness. It is always better for us to stop eating when full or satisfied than when all the food has been eaten. You may want to use phrases that will help everyone to recognize when they are full. This can prevent overeating.
Instead of: You’re such a big girl; you finished all your peas, try Is your stomach telling you that you’re full?
Instead of: Look at your sister. She ate all of her bananas. Try Is your stomach still making its hungry growling noise?
Instead of: Your have to take one more bite before you leave the table. Try Has your tummy had enough?
The next group implies that we are wrong to refuse food. This, too, can lead to unhealthy attitudes about food or self. It is right to use phrases that let us know and feel like we are making good food choices, no matter what age we are. It also shifts the focus toward the taste of food and not who was right or wrong.
Instead of: See, that didn’t taste so bad, did it? Try Do you like that? Which one is your favorite?
Everybody likes different foods, don’t they?
Offering some foods, like dessert, in reward for finishing others, like vegetables, makes some foods seem better than others. Getting a food treat when upset sends the wrong message and teaches us to eat to feel better. We all know this can lead to overeating. Rewards of attention and kind words are better ways to offer comfort, especially if it is included with hugs and real one on one talks. Showing love and concern by spending time and having fun together is a more sincere form of affection than by buying them off with toys, trinkets, or food.
Instead of: No dessert until you eat your vegetables. Try We can try these vegetables again another time. Next time would you like to try them raw instead of cooked or maybe cooked a different way, or maybe you can help?
Instead of: Stop crying and I will give you a brownie. Try I am sorry you are sad. Come here and tell me all about it and let me give you a big hug.
Once we started implementing this program, we were amazed at the positive reaction from friends and family about our ‘NEW LOVE’ for the food we consume, and how happy we are being picky eaters! That is one more reason the Fairy Tale Diet works. The food is delicious, the menus and recipes are endless and the dishes are fast and easy to prepare. My DH loves the versatility of ‘on 5 and off 2’ and sometimes gets upset because I refuse to prepare Fairy Tale dishes on those two days!!!! (I love cooking… but I deserve a break from KP too!)
It seems that women’s work is never done…so I guess it’s time to hit the kitchen and find that FREE RECIPE for those Black Bean Brownies I’ve been talking about:
I love making these, they are so SUPER simple. They get eaten fast (good thing too, because I’ve been told by others that those healthy enzymes and moistness of the beans, if not eaten in the first day or two, causes them grow fuzzy penicillin, that no one should eat!)
Preheat oven to 350*F and then as you go down the ingredient list, just start dumping each one into your blender and make sure you blend VERY well.
15 oz can black beans (drained & rinsed well)
4 large eggs
40 drops of Splendex
5 tbsp cocoa powder
2 tbsp strong coffee (or 1 tbsp instant coffee dissolved in 1 tbsp hot water)
1 tsp baking powder
2 tbsp Walden Farms Miracle Mayo, butter, margarine or olive oil
1 tsp vanilla
Prepare an 9×9-baking pan by spraying it with butter flavored non-stick cooking spray. Bake for 30 minutes, or until toothpick comes out clean. Allow to cool before slicing. Brownies are approx. 2 ¼ ” x 2 ¼ ” in size.
Number of Servings: 16
This is Granny’s’ Gourmet DIY for the Fairy Tale Diet!
Class dismissed ‘till later